The writing on the wall...
Tuesday, February 8, 2011 at 11:45AM To write on the wall, is to leave yourself in a common place, in hopes of someday being found by someone else. - Unknown
This act, although communal in a sense, changes the way we perceive something. Recently, an old college colleague of mine passed away do to health issues. She has had these issues for awhile, but you never assume someone is going to be taken away from this Earth while so young. She was full of energy and talent, and impacted me a lot more than she probably ever knew.
Now that she is gone, her Facebook wall has become a site of remembrance for her friends. In fact, it was because of her Facebook profile, that I knew she had passed. I knew she was in the hospital, but it was when I started to see all of our common friends write on her wall, I was able to find out what happened.
This act is, honestly, slightly disturbing. Although I understand people's need to want to feel like they can still communicate to her, it isn't possible. The best thing that can come from it is perhaps closure, and a window into her world for family that perhaps they didn't know about. It in a sense, has become a living wall to remember her by, and that is what makes it worthwhile. I am in no way saying that I don't wish for them to post to her wall, but it is a hard reminder that she is gone, and that is what hurts.
Tibby...You will be remembered. Your fluting, your smiles, and your wit, are all part of the gracious memories of you that I have. You are missed, and you will remain alive in those of you who you came into contact with and impacted. Thank you for everything...
(In memory of Christina Parks 1984-2011)


